🗓️ October 15, 2026
⌚️ 7 PM - late
🗺️ Chelsea, Manhattan, 10001, address shared with approved members before the event
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An intimate dinner exploring why we want what we want, and why the forbidden can be so intoxicating.
On October 15th, we’re joined by Niki Davis-Fainbloom (Miss Bloom) for an exploration of The Psychology of Fetish.
From the familiar to the forbidden, we’ll look at how fetishes form, what shapes our particular desires, the role of fantasy and taboo, and what might happen when we approach what turns us on with curiosity rather than shame.
With no more than 18 guests, the evening is designed for real access to our featured guest: listening, questioning, challenging ideas, sharing perspectives, and letting the conversation evolve around the table.
Featured Guest: Miss Bloom
Niki Davis-Fainbloom is a sex educator, writer, researcher, coach, and event host specializing in fetishes, sexual communication, ethical non-monogamy, and pleasure. She is the author of the forthcoming book, Fetish: Smash Taboos and Celebrate What Turns You On, which explores the science and psychology behind our desires and how we can approach what turns us on with more curiosity and less shame.
She has facilitated 500+ workshops at organizations including Planned Parenthood, New York University, and the United Nations. In NYC, she also produces playful, sex-positive events ranging from body paint dance parties and dating events to sex education workshops and Kinky Carnivals. Her work combines research, humor, and interactive experiences to make conversations about sex, relationships, and desire more approachable, fun, and shame-free.
Website: nikidavisf.com
Instagram: instagram.com/missbloomsexeducator
Pre-order a copy of Miss Bloom’s new book! Fetish: Smash Taboos and Celebrate What Turns You On
At the Table
Dinner is prepared by Ross Lager, a Michelin-trained chef with experience in high-end kitchens around the world. With food as his medium, Ross expands diners’ palates and minds through a three-course menu created especially for the evening.
Website: platedbyross.com
Your ticket includes passed canapés, a three-course Michelin-trained chef dinner, wine, cocktails, and mixed drinks throughout the evening, all served in an intimate private loft in Chelsea, Manhattan.
The Evening
Arrival
Cocktails, wine, and passed canapés. Settle in and get to know the people you’ll be spending the evening with.
First Course
Miss Bloom opens the conversation with an introduction to the psychology of fetish, a personal perspective, and questions for the table.
Main Course
The conversation opens up. Guests explore the evening’s ideas in intimate discussion, with Miss Bloom moving through the room, joining conversations, offering perspective, and challenging the table.
Dessert
We come back together to unpack what emerged, ask questions, and explore the ideas worth carrying beyond the table.
After Dinner
No need to rush home. Cocktails continue after dessert, with music, mingling, and plenty of room for conversations started over dinner to go a little further.
Come hungry. Stay curious. Go Off Menu.
Off Menu is a dinner and conversation series for curious minds and adventurous palates.
Off Menu is a dinner series for the delightfully curious.
Each evening is set in a beautiful private NYC loft and features a tasting menu prepared by a Michelin-trained chef, paired with a guided talk, performance, or demonstration centered on a specific theme. Select evenings feature keynote speakers exploring topics around attraction, intimacy, relationships, and the psychology of human connection.
Upcoming topics include “The Art of Attraction”, “The Appeal of Surrender”, “Fashion, Skin, and Suggestion”,“Sex Myths We All Believe”, and more.
After dinner, the music rises and the lights dim. The evening continues with an optional after-hours experience with space to mingle, dance, or play.
Attendance is for Night Owls members only and limited to no more than 18 guests at dinner and no more than 18 additional guests after dinner. Discretion and consent are foundational.
Off Menu is built for people who find great conversation genuinely attractive.
Each evening begins with a provocative idea introduced by a keynote speaker, setting the tone for thoughtful discussion around attraction, relationships, psychology, and human behavior. The small dinner table format encourages real dialogue rather than surface-level small talk, drawing a room full of curious people who enjoy asking better questions and exploring interesting perspectives.
By the time dinner ends and the evening shifts into cocktails, music, and after-hours socializing, the room is already buzzing with connection.
Off Menu creates a rare environment where ideas, curiosity, and chemistry can unfold in the same room.
Have an idea to bring to the table?
Volunteer
If you’d like to attend and volunteer for a comped ticket, please email hello@nightowlsmeet.com as we have volunteer tickets available.
Members Only
This is a play party only accessible to Night Owls members. Please head to nightowlsmeet.com/join to apply. This process will help us ensure an environment that's both s*xy and safe.
Age Restriction
All Night Owls experiences are for ages 21+ only
Consent
This is an ASK FIRST event; the rules of respectful and consensual behavior WILL be enforced. Please read our consent policy: nightowlsmeet.com/consent
Terms
By RSVP'ing to this event, you acknowledge that you have read and agree to the Night Owls Terms of Service and Code of Conduct
FAQ
✨ I can no longer attend. Can I get a refund? Tickets are strictly non-refundable and non-transferable.
✨ I’m not a member, can I buy a ticket? For this event, no. For members-only events, you will need to supply the email address associated with your membership as part of the ticket-buying process. You can apply for free membership here: nightowlsmeet.com/join
✨ When can I know the address of the venue? The address of the venue will be sent to approved and confirmed guests during the week before the event. Make sure to monitor your spam folder just in case!
✨ What do I need to bring to get in? We’ll have a door host checking the guest list at entry. If you haven’t been approved and haven’t received a pre-event confirmation email, you won’t be on the list. Management reserves the right to request a photo ID to cross-check membership and/or your ticket QR code upon entry. Entry is always at management’s discretion.
✨ Do I have to dress up? In short, yes. Night Owls parties have a strict dress code that must be adhered to. The venue has a free coat check. You are welcome to come in regular clothes and change at the venue. Guests who do not adhere to the dress code will be refused entry with no refund.
Get in touch: hello@nightowlsmeet.com
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